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Mortality Always Wins By Knockout

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People hate Jake Paul. He is the walking personification of a Reddit board: a cocky, belligerent white boy who loves to troll as much as he loves to use mental health issues as marketing. His transition from YouTube provocateur to "serious" "boxer" has been built on the calculated decision to fight washed-up black athletes. It’s smart; boxing has always thrived when catering to the public imagination around race war. The desire to see Paul get knocked out by one of the faded avatars of black masculinity he sets himself against explains much of the draw of his fights. His savvy protection of that appeal explains why he only fights people he can comfortably beat with his young legs and just-about-competent skills.

When it was first announced that Paul planned to fight a 58-year-old Mike Tyson, the initial response was one of widespread incredulousness. Over time, people seemed to convince themselves that somehow a geriatric Tyson could be the one to finally put Jake Paul “in his place,” whatever that might mean. It always made sense why Paul would want to fight an old Mike Tyson. But what exactly was in it for Tyson? Money, surely, but that can’t be the only reason. This is a man in his late 50s, who’d been mostly retired since the early 2000s. The people who got suckered into caring about this fight didn't want to see that reality, transposing instead an image of the Mike Tyson of yore, maybe older and slower in some vague way, but still in possession of the exhilarating, terrifying power and violence that made him a legend. On some level, maybe Tyson wanted to see that too.



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A Ridiculous, Perfect Way to Make Friends

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When I was teaching indoor cycling every week, an unexpected benefit of the gig was free ice cream. One of the class regulars had an ice-cream machine at home and sometimes brought samples for me to try, in flavors such as pumpkin and pistachio. I think he did this not only because he was a nice person but also because in class, I was the nicest version of myself: warm, welcoming, and encouraging to the point of profound corniness, despite my usual caustic tendencies.

I noticed this friendliness in others too. Two people who met in my class started dating. Strangers who became friends there went out for post-workout coffees. Two of the other class regulars invited me to go skiing with them. Many of the good friends I have at age 35 are people I met in exercise classes I attended regularly. These experiences have convinced me that group fitness classes are the best place to make friends as an adult—an idea supported by research that suggests that the glow of exercise’s feel-good chemicals has interpersonal benefits.

Once, countless friendships were born in what the sociologist Ray Oldenburg called “third places”: physical spaces that aren’t a home or a workplace, don’t charge (much) for entry, and exist in large part to foster conversation. Over the past several decades, though—and especially as a result of the pandemic—third places such as bars and cafés have begun playing a much smaller role in social life, depriving American adults of opportunities for chance encounters that can lead to friendships. Perhaps that’s partly why Americans rank improving their relationships among their top New Year’s resolutions.

Group fitness classes don’t exactly fit the definition of a third place: They cost money, and the primary activities within them are sweating, grunting, and skipping a few reps when the instructor isn’t looking. But they fulfill many conditions that social-psychology research has repeatedly shown to help forge meaningful connections between strangers: proximity (being in the same place), ritual (at the same time, over and over), accumulation (for many hours), and shared experiences or interests (because you do and like the same things).

[From the December 2019 issue: I joined a stationary-biker gang]

Sussing out shared interests can be horribly awkward when you meet someone new at work or even at a party. Group fitness classes make it a little easier, Stephanie Roth Goldberg, an athlete psychotherapist in New York, told me. “Automatically, when you walk into a fitness class, you likely are sharing the idea that ‘We like to exercise,’ or ‘We like to do this particular kind of exercise,’” she said. “It breaks the ice differently than standing in a bar or at someone’s house.” Of course, breaking the ice still requires someone to say something, which, if you’re sweaty and huffing, is frankly terrifying. Whether I’m an instructor or a classmate, one simple tactic has never failed me: I simply walk up to someone after class and say, “Hey, good job!”

Proximity, ritual, and accumulation all require a certain amount of time, which can be hard to come by in a country that requires and rewards long hours at work. But you’re already making time for exercise class, and it provides those conditions; benefitting from them mostly requires acknowledging that you’ve already set yourself up for friendship. Danielle Friedman, a journalist and the author of Let’s Get Physical, told me that breaking through what she calls the “social code of anonymity” is key to making friends. “If you’ve been going to the same class for a while and start seeing the same people, don’t pretend like you’ve never interacted before,” she said.

That kind of friendliness requires adopting the clichéd feel-goodery inherent in many group fitness classes. In my spin classes, I’d cringe whenever I caught myself doling out motivational platitudes—mostly “We’re all in this together!” because I needed the reminder too, as I tried to talk and spin at the same time. Inevitably, though, someone would “Woo!” in response and reenergize the whole room. I’d load up my playlists with high-tempo remixes of early-aughts Top 40 hits and catch people singing along. One of my favorite instructors in a class I attended regularly instituted “Fun Friday,” when we’d warm up by doing silly little relay races or grade-school-style games; my blood ran cold the first time she told us to partner up for this cheesefest, but I had a blast. Everyone did.

In a world that prizes ironic detachment, embracing such earnest silliness can feel deeply uncomfortable. But—and you might as well get used to hearing this kind of phrase now, if you’re going to start attending classes—you just have to push through. “When you’re sweating, feeling a little out of control of your physical self, whooping and yelling, there’s a vulnerability,” Friedman said. “If you buy in, then you’ve shared something. There aren’t that many contexts as adults where you have that opportunity to be vulnerable together.”

[Read: Why making friends in midlife is so hard]

A room full of grown adults flailing, shouting, and running miles without ever going anywhere is a fundamentally ridiculous prospect. Ridiculous things, however, play a crucial role in connecting with others: They make us laugh. Studies show that laughing with others facilitates social connection by helping us feel that we have more in common. The “happy hormones” released during exercise—endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin—are also associated with bonding. In particular, exercising in sync with others promotes close relationships.

Even if you don’t find your next best friend at Zumba, getting into a fitness habit of some kind might help you meet people and make friends in other spaces. “The more that people can step out of their comfort zone in one setting, the less intimidating it is to do in other settings,” Goldberg said. Perhaps you’ll even become the version of yourself who inspires people to bring you homemade ice cream. Win-win.

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Seattle Sushi Chain Shuts Down Restaurants After Backlash From Keith Lee Fans

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Keith Lee attends ComplexCon 2024 on November 16, 2024 in Las Vegas, Nevada.
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Fans of the famous TikTok food critic claim they saw a “worm” in a piece of nigiri from one of Lee’s videos

Fob Sushi Bar’s Seattle metro area locations have temporarily closed citing recent food safety concerns after fans of popular food TikTok personality Keith Lee alleged that they saw something moving in a recent video of the Lee’s visit to a Fob location in Seattle.

The popular online food reviewer known for critiquing restaurants from his car hit the Emerald City on one of his trademark surprise food trips and began posting content on Sunday, November 10. The first place he shared was at Fob Sushi Bar, and Lee said it was chosen for a visit because it was one of the most recommended places in town.

“[This is] sushi done in the most unique way I’ve ever seen in my life,” Lee tells the camera in his introduction. He goes on to explain that Fob sells sushi by the pound — Lee picked out $15 worth, grabbing a large box but then only filling up a small portion of it because he has a shellfish allergy (famously, he left SF abruptly after having a reaction). As seen in the video, many of the nigiri and sashimi servings were contaminated by being in close proximity to shellfish. He eats several pieces of sushi, mostly declaring the sushi rice overcooked but the fish good.

What happened next put the restaurant at the mercy of over a million eyeballs. Some folks began to comment claiming they saw something moving on one of the pieces of sushi Lee ate at 1:50 in the video.

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Lee’s viewers demanded a statement from Fob Sushi, which responded with a post on Instagram. The restaurant called claims that there was a worm in the piece of fish “false” and added, “[W]e follow strict FDA and HACCP standards to ensure the highest quality and safety in every dish. The movement in the video is due to natural elasticity in the fish—not worms.” The post details at what temperature the fish is stored, and from which suppliers it is acquired, and offers a reminder that the restaurant has never faced any health concerns. King 5 in Seattle dug into it, and found the restaurant was visited by the health inspector in January and that no issues were found.

Lee has since made a response video to the drama saying, “It did appear that something moved,” although he didn’t see it at the time and says he cannot “confirm or deny” what it was. Lee suffered no ill effects but goes on to claim that someone went there on his recommendation the next day and alleges that individual ended up in the hospital.

“For the restaurant to post a statement indicating that me holding the sushi or me holding the chopsticks a certain way is why the sushi moved — I personally don’t agree with it,” Lee said. “Because I’ve had sushi a thousand times, and I’ve held sushi a thousand different ways, and never once have I seen sushi behaving that way.” He goes on to clarify that he is not saying there was a worm or parasite in his food, but that the sushi moving was not his fault.

On Monday, November 18, Fob Sushi addressed its response to the situation in a post to Instagram, announcing that it was closing its locations in Bellevue, where Lee ate, and Seattle “until further notice.” The restaurant said it is conducting a “thorough investigation” into what happened and how to prevent it from happening again.

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Right-wing social networks don't work

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The Culture War Finally Comes To Bluesky

I had some readers balk at my declaration last week that Bluesky was probably going to be Twitter’s true cultural successor, rather than Threads. Which, you know, fine. I’m not even sure I agree with it lol. But if I had to define each platform right now, I’d say that Bluesky, though still small, has clearly grabbed a lot of post-election political clout in the US. While Threads seems to be some kind of algorithmic holding pen for anyone who has ever eaten a Sweetgreen salad in Salesforce Park.

And you can see the proof of Bluesky’s ascendant political value in how quick right-wing users on X have been to ridicule it. There is already a Libs Of TikTok-style X account called LibsOfBluesky. And Bluesky is also beginning to attract Twitter’s political grifter class, who thrive off engagement-hacking genuine discourse. This could be happening on Threads, as well, but Meta seems dead set on Threads users never being able to see what’s happening on the platform for some reason. Meanwhile, a Bluesky user named @numb.comfortab.ly created a custom feed called “Blue Anon,” which includes accounts they describe as “Resistor grifters and conspiracy theorists.” Some of the more prominent names on the feed are Keith Olbermann, Brianna Wu, and Louise Mensch.

All that said, though, I will tell you, based on Garbage Day’s internal metrics, Bluesky right now is traffic poison. No one wants to read about it and if we put “Bluesky” in our subject lines, the issue will underperform significantly. (Which is why we didn’t put it in the subject line today. Haha got you!)

(Leftists are being crazy online, you say? A shocking development.)

I assume proper right-wing users will start showing up on Bluesky soon because X is going to get very boring for them, very quickly. One of the ideas I’ve repeated the most often in Garbage Day over the years is my firm belief that conservative-only social networks don’t work in the long term. The online right, post-2014, is completely powered by cyberbullying and cruelty and without an easily accessible Other to torment, they either devolve into irrelevant spam or start fighting with each other. This is why Gab, Parler, and even Truth Social have never materialized into anything other than unofficial directories for the FBI of would-be domestic terrorists.

Host of the Western Kabuki podcast Juniper wrote last week, “It’s pretty funny watching the right, who thrive online off of hate and ‘triggering the libs,’ migrate here because people are abandoning twitter. The online right can’t exist without people to antagonize.”

I’ve also definitely started to notice the discourse on X starting to lose its focus. Last week, X users randomly started complaining about New Zealand’s parliament Haka. My assumption is that they will continue to surface bizarre, racist discourses that go nowhere as the site fully transforms into a right-wing echo chamber. It doesn’t make the site less dangerous, but it will impact its ability to work with real advertisers. There’s a reason why the only ads on 4chan are for hentai sites and crypto startups!

But I think I’ve seen enough to settle on a prediction for 2025. Threads will continue to “grow” and gain “users” but it will never create any kind of real meme or news story — the fact it hasn’t yet is, in my opinion, damning — and will eventually be cannibalized by Instagram and re-integrated somehow back into the app. While Bluesky will have its first big internet-wide viral moment and become the new tiny social network that guides the rest. And, finally, as Elon Musk starts to understand that the people who made Twitter important politically and socially enough to buy have left it, he’ll try to use his proximity to President-elect Donald Trump to put pressure on competitors like Bluesky.

Excited to come back in a year and see how I did.


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This Study Seems To Show That X Is Boosting Right-Wing Accounts

The Queensland University of Technology released a new study this month titled “A computational analysis of potential algorithmic bias on platform X during the 2024 US election,” which analyzed around 55,000 posts on X during the lead up to the election. You can read the whole thing here, and here’s a link to a Bluesky thread that collects a few of the takeaways.

The study was organized into two phases, with the first being focused on Musk’s account, specifically, and the second comparing engagement on Republican and Democrat accounts.

“Overall, the results imply that while some aspects of engagement on the platform appear to have been enhanced broadly, specific visibility advantages may have been selectively applied,” the study concludes.

Now, this is not exactly surprising, but it does lead to some deeper questions that the study doesn’t seem to account for. It’s possible that X’s algorithm has some kind of political slant, but it feels more likely that X’s For You tab is just incentivizing lowest common denominator content meant to enrage users. And it’s also likely that there are more conservatives using X than there used to be. The study also found that the structural changes they’re arguing happened occurred right after Musk endorsed Trump in July. Which would have significantly changed the site’s demographics, thus resulting in more growth and interest around right-wing content.


A Lot Of People Watched, Were Disappointed, By The Paul/Tyson Fight

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I watched the big Mike Tyson/Jake Paul fight from a bar in Brooklyn last week and much to my — and the crowd around me’s — disappointment, Tyson did not send Paul to the hospital. Even worse, Paul “won”. Slate’s Luke Winkie summed up the general consensus of the fight pretty well, writing, “Rapidly approaching cultural rock bottom. Actually gives me hope we can rebound into something cool. It can’t go on like this.” (At least I think he was talking about the fight, he posted it right as the fight ended. Even if it’s not about the fight, though, I think it applies lol.) Defector also wrote a big piece about the fight this week, calling out the general “unreality” of the whole thing.

New York Magazine’s Josef Adalian reported that Netflix estimates about 60 million accounts, or 20% of its total audience globally, streamed the fight. Netflix tends to assume every view counts as two, but maybe they’re right this time, since a lot of people seemed to watch the fight together. Either way, it was a big enough audience to constantly crash the stream — the bar I was in had to refresh the app at least six times.

Hopefully, Netflix’s next foray into live programming, an NFL halftime show featuring Beyoncé, goes a bit better.


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Pokémon Go Will Power The Murderous AI System Of The Future

Uh, so here’s something interesting. Niantic, the company behind Pokémon Go, published a long blog post last week outlining a new project they’ve been working on called a Large Geospatial Model, essentially a Large Language Model but for visualizing and mapping physical space. They’re calling it the Visual Positioning System, or VPS, and they plan to use it for future augmented reality products and robotics. The idea of mapping the whole world has been a big priority for Niantic over the last few years.

One new feature for Pokémon Go that uses VPS is called Pokémon Playgrounds and it lets a user place a virtual Pokémon on a location and other players will find that Pokémon where they left it.

Though, as Elise Thomas, over at the Institute for Strategic Dialogue, pointed out, it seems almost undeniable that this will not just power fun game mechanics. “It's so incredibly 2020s coded that Pokemon Go is being used to build an AI system which will almost inevitably end up being used by automated weapons systems to kill people,” Thomas wrote.

Probably worth dropping a link here to the long-running surveillance conspiracy theories that have been following Niantic around since Pokémon Go first launched in 2016.


News “Influencers” Actually Lean Right

Contrary to the popular idea of an influencer you might have in your head — liberal TikTokers or progressive Instagrammers making chatty social clips and pastel-infused infographics — a new study out this week from Pew has found that “news influencers” are actually overwhelmingly conservative.

Now, the first thing to hit here is how Pew is defining “news influencer”. They looked at 500 creators with more than 100,000 followers on platforms like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and X, which I actually think skews things quite a bit. The term “influencer” has been gendered for years and I, honestly, don’t really think that, say, a Gen Z TikToker making videos about trans healthcare as part of the same industry or same potential audience as Tim Pool making (allegedly) Russian-funded YouTube ragebait. But perhaps that paradigm needs to shift.

Especially because if you do gather up every individual creator making current event and political content online and throw them into the same bucket, you discover, as Pew did, that about a fifth of the country and close to half of Americans between 18-29 are watching aggressively right-wing content made by insane men.

As Taylor Lorenz wrote in User Mag today, “If we don't fight for change and build systems to amplify more women and progressive voices online, we will be stuck with a media landscape that continues to exacerbate inequality and warps our political landscape for the worse.”


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No One Wants This Weird New Relationship Style. But It’s Exactly What Many of Us Have Found Ourselves In.

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It’s Time to Start Calling “Megadonors” What They Really Are

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